Suffering is all about me. We suffer because our model of reality does not fit reality and we cling to our model. As if reality would have to fit our model not the other way around. So if you suffer it’s always about you. Your expectations are not met. And you can solve this in 3 ways: change reality, change or drop expectations. Changing reality is the option we try usually and we know it does not work. Reality just does not feel like fitting our models. Changing our expectations does not work either … you just add another rule to the model and since the model gets more and more complex it shall fit even less with reality. So this means we will suffer at some point in the future.
So the hard way is in fact the easy way. Just drop the expectations. If your model does not exist, reality is fine just the way it is. No more suffering. Easy, right? So when we suffer we can always blame luck, others, karma and all other stuff. But the fact is that we suffer because reality does not fit our model. So what we should do in fact is look at our expectations … what expectations did we have there? How did we get from “I don’t like that” to “he hates me”? Because it all happened in our mind
